Rumors are like ripples in a cornfield. They are ephemeral, but they do indicate which way the wind is blowing.

SUSAN J. PALMER, Aliens Adored

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“There is a rumour going around that I have found God. I think this is unlikely because I have enough difficulty finding my keys, and there is empirical evidence that they exist.”

― Terry Pratchett

Tom Waits “There ain’t no devil, only God when he’s drunk.”

― Tom Waits

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Alcohol misuse has significant adverse effects on parenting including inconsistency, emotional detachment and neglect. Family life can become characterised by chaos and a lack of routine, and in some cases unpredictable behaviour associated with mental health problems and violence

http://www.12steptreatmentcentres.com/alcohol-misuse-on-children-of-drunken-parents-32.asp

Somewhere along the line we began to believe that technology was in some way superior to what was natural, and so we willingly gave up control of even minor health problems.”

― Karen Sullivan, The Complete Illustrated Guide to Natural Home Remedies: Safe and Effective Treatments for Common Ailments

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“Five truly effective prescriptions to remedy a bad day.
(You can’t overdose.)

—Pray; discuss your troubles with God.
—List your blessings. (The blue sky, soft cookies, warm socks, etc.)
—Call your mum.
—Visit an animal shelter and hug a lonely cat.
—Visit a nursing home and hug a lonely grandparent.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich

REST AND DREAM

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“Cucumber and bergamot,” Clary said. “Is there anything else you hate that I ought to know about?”

Jace looked at Dorothea over the rim of his teacup. “Liars,” he said.”

― Cassandra Clare, City of Bones

Safety is as simple as ABC – Always Be Careful.

http://www.quotegarden.com/safety.html

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“I have found both freedom and safety in my madness; the freedom of loneliness and the safety from being understood, for those who understand us enslave something in us.”

― Kahlil Gibran, The Madman

“Every person is like a single tulip. While they may blend when together, each one is special in its own light.”

  Kessler, Daniella

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“She’s always getting into trouble because she gets bored really really easily.
My mum says it’s because Celia has an attention span the size of a sesame seed.
Celia’s mum says it’s because Celia’s identity is unfurling itself slowly, like a tulip bud, and it’s a breathtakingly beautiful thing to see.”

― Jaclyn Moriarty, Feeling Sorry for Celia

Have you ever heard of a flower that never needs Water, soil, or sunshine?

Source: Flower Poems – Poems about Flowers

Aldora Sparrow

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“Stepping out of the busyness, stopping our endless pursuit of getting somewhere else, is perhaps the most beautiful offering we can make to our spirit.”

― Tara Brach, True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart

See them try to bring the hammer down No damn chains can hold me to the ground

METALLICA

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“Is it a small thing to quench the flames of hell with the holy tears of pity — to unbind the martyr from the stake — break all the chains — put out the fires of civil war — stay the sword of the fanatic, and tear the bloody hands of the Church from the white throat of Science?
Is it a small thing to make men truly free — to destroy the dogmas of ignorance, prejudice and power — the poisoned fables of superstition, and drive from the beautiful face of the earth the fiend of fear?”

― Robert G. Ingersoll

Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.”

― David Allen

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“The sea was cruel and selfish as human beings, and in its monstrous simplicity had no notion of complexities like pity, wounding, or remorse… You could see yourself in it… while the wind, the light, the swaying, the sound of the water on the hull worked the miracle of distancing, calming you until you didn’t hurt anymore, erasing any pity, any wound, and any remorse.”

― Arturo Pérez-Reverte, Queen Of The South

The Confidant is held together with delicate threads and secrets.

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“And when at last you find someone to whom you feel you can pour out your soul, you stop in shock at the words you utter— they are so rusty, so ugly, so meaningless and feeble from being kept in the small cramped dark inside you so long.”

― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

A second component in our inventory is discovering the roots of our addictions and codependencies.

http://www.12step.org/the-12-steps/step-4.html

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“Ultimately, ‘how’s it going?’ is the most futile and the most profound of questions. To answer it precisely, one would have to make a scrupulous inventory of one’s psyche, considering each aspect in detail. No matter: we have to say ‘fine’ out of politeness and civility and change the subject, or else ruminate the question during our whole lives and reserve our reply for afterward.”

― Pascal Bruckner

People believe it because people are stupid. Apparently, that’s adequate now.”

― A.S. King, Please Ignore Vera Dietz

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One Variation on People Pleasing

Merging. One to please someone is to be like them. Here you aren’t just trying to be what another person wants you to be, you are trying to be a copy of them. If they are upset by something, you should be, too. If they are happy, you should be happy. The way to please them is to merge with them. If you have this variation, you are likely to merge with one special person–a parent, a sibling, a lover, a spouse. Sometimes both people have this pattern; they are merged with each other. There are a number of ways to merge: (1) Searching inside to find the part of you that feels like the other person,. (2) Assuming you feel the same as they do. (3) Distorting what you feel to make it the same. When the two people actually feel differently, this can be confusing.