How To Deal with Dysfunctional People — And Not Go Crazy Yourself « Dr. Paul White

How To Deal with Dysfunctional People — And Not Go Crazy Yourself27May 2007Last posting I described dysfunctional people and what behavior patterns characterize them. That is really the easy part.  The tough part is learning how to deal with dysfunctional people in our lives — whether they are family members, coworkers, employees, or neighbors — and to do so in a way that doesn’t make us go crazy or so we don’t commit murder!The first clue to dealing effectively with dysfunctional individuals is to give up the expectation that they will respond in a healthy way to whatever action you choose to take.  Usually, no matter what you do, you will feel blamed and they will be angry — it is the classic example of “damned if do, damned if you don’t.” If you talk to them, they are angry.  If you don’t talk to them, they are offended.  If you have somebody else talk to them, you’ll be in trouble, too. So, really — you have to give it up — typically, you will not be able to fix the situation.  At best, you may be able to do “damage control”.

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Bob Earll Speaks To ACA In Arizona

Robert Bob Earll is a complex man, someone whose name is being tossed around as people seek him out online. Robert Earll who wrote for tv series like Hill Street Blues, Charlie’s Angles, Starsky and Hutch, The Fall Guy, Fantasy Island, Nightstalker, Ironside from the 1960s through the 1990s. His film credits list him as a writer, producer, developer over a span of years in which he was involved with creating truly remarkable story lines for gripping tv series. His talent as a writer may well be connected to a life lived on the edge, as revealed in his autobiographical book “I Got Tired of Pretending”  and in another book “Turning on the Light: A plan for empowerment & fullness of life” .

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Professor Ross Fitzgerald » Blog Archive » Ross Fitzgerald to raise a glass of the soft stuff to a life well lived

Ross Fitzgerald to raise a glass of the soft stuff to a life well lived9 JUNE 2014 38 VIEWS NO COMMENTPROBABLY Australia’s most celebrated teetotaller will toast his Order of Australia in the same style he has his long list of other achievements in the past 44 years.“I’ll be going to an AA meeting at 8pm, to give thanks from whence it all has come,” academic and author Ross Fitzgerald laughs as he tells ‘The Australian’.“Had I not stopped drinking and using all other drugs from Australia Day 1970, I wouldn’t have been around to do the work that the award’s about.“I stopped at 24, if I hadn’t, I probably wouldn’t have made 25.”That body of work includes 36 histories and biographies, of which he considers the leading achievements his histories of Queensland, and biographies on “Red Ted” Edward Theodore — who Professor Fitzgerald describes “as probably the most talented politician never to be prime minister” — and Fred Paterson, Australia’s only communist member of parliament.

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Take it from this alcoholic – Australia needs a national summit on alcohol | Doug Cameron | Comment is free | theguardian.com

I haven’t had a drink for 35 years, but I am an alcoholic. I don’t feel the pull of drink like I used to, but I know if I was to have a drink, I couldn’t stop at one, or even several – I’d just drink until I was drunk. So I don’t.Drink was all around me from day one. My father, a returned soldier, drank heavily and died from a heart attack at a young age – probably accelerated by his drinking. Growing up, I was simply surrounded by alcohol. It was part of the culture of where I came from. I began drinking when I was about 14 thanks to easy access to my father’s home brew. I started to build my life around alcohol and couldn’t understand how anyone could enjoy themselves without a drink.

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If you get your han’ in a debil mout’ tek it out.

 

 

 If  you get your han’ in a debil mout’ tek it out.

 

Translation: If you put your hand in the devils mouth, take it out carefully.
Explanation: Act cautiously in getting out of difficulty.

http://www.nlj.gov.jm/?q=jamaican-proverbs#debil

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Chicken deh merry,
Hawk deh near.

meaning: Where there is
too much merriment and
excitement, danger lurks near.

http://www.lasanabandele.com/jamaican_proverbs.html

Alcoholic drinking’s three stages: impulsive, compulsive, repulsive.

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W.A.P.Martin ~1900?

On Drinking Alone by Moonlight

Here are flowers and here is wine,
But where’s a friend with me to join
Hand in hand and heart to heart
In one full cup before we part?

Rather than to drink alone,
I’ll make bold to ask the moon
To condescend to lend her face
The hour and the scene to grace.

Lo, she answers, and she brings
My shadow on her silver wings;
That makes three, and we shall be.
I ween, a merry company

The modest moon declines the cup,
But shadow promptly takes it up,
And when I dance my shadow fleet
Keeps measure with my flying feet.

But though the moon declines to tipple
She dances in yon shining ripple,
And when I sing, my festive song,
The echoes of the moon prolong.

Say, when shall we next meet together?
Surely not in cloudy weather,
For you my boon companions dear
Come only when the sky is clear.
http://clatterymachinery.wordpress.com/2007/01/26/li-bai-drinking-alone-with-the-moon-his-shadow-32-translators/