Category Archives: DENIAL

“I don’t need a cloak to become invisible.” ― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone

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no veil of false excuses, or artful cloaking and colouring of our faults, will disguise from us our true state, if only we never neglect to consult this mirror in sincerity and with earnest prayer.

We’d burn these joints in effegy, cry about what we used to be, and try to ignore the elephant somehow. Somehow . JASON IZBELL.

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“Elephants can sense danger. They’re able to detect an approaching tsunami or earthquake before it hits. Unfortunately, Jack did not have this talent. The day his life was turned completely upside down, he was caught unaware.”
― Jennifer Richard Jacobson, Small as an Elephant

When the ape cannot reach the banana with its hand, he says it is sour” ~ Bambara (Mali)

http://www.glimpsesofafrica.com/african-quotes–proverbs.html

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All right,” said Susan. “I’m not stupid. You’re saying humans need… fantasies to make life bearable.”

REALLY? AS IF IT WAS SOME KIND OF PINK PILL? NO. HUMANS NEED FANTASY TO BE HUMAN. TO BE THE PLACE WHERE THE FALLING ANGEL MEETS THE RISING APE.

TERRY PRATCHETT.

And that is how we are. By strength of will we cut off our inner intuitive knowledge from admitted consciousness. This causes a state of dread, or apprehension, which makes the blow ten times worse when it does fall.” ― D.H. Lawrence, Lady Chatterley’s Lover

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MAKING THE LIE MAKE SENSE:

When denial (his or ours) can no longer hold and we finally have to admit to ourselves that we’ve been lied to, we search frantically for ways to keep it from disrupting our lives. So we rationalize. We find “good reasons” to justify his lying, just as he almost always accompanies his confessions with “good reasons” for his lies. He tells us he only lied because…. We tell ourselves he only lied because…. We make excuses for him: The lying wasn’t significant/Everybody lies/He’s only human/I have no right to judge him.

Allowing the lies to register in our consciousness means having to make room for any number of frightening possibilities:

• He’s not the man I thought he was.
• The relationship has spun out of control and I don’t know
what to do
• The relationship may be over.

Most women will do almost anything to avoid having to face these truths. Even if we yell and scream at him when we discover that he’s lied to us, once the dust settles, most of us will opt for the comforting territory of rationalization. In fact, many of us are willing to rewire our senses, short-circuit our instincts and intelligence, and accept the seductive comfort of self-delusion.”

― Susan Forward, When Your Lover Is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception and Betrayal

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Ali Cobby Eckermann. little bit long time.

http://www.emsah.uq.edu.au/awsr/new_site/awbr_archive/147/Cobby.htm

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I am but an humble explorer of the science of non-violence. Its hidden depths sometimes stagger me
just as much as they stagger fellow-workers

Ghandi.

Truth’s best ornament is nakedness.

German

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 it wasn’t pretend, I wasn’t in a fairytale or a fable. I shut my eyes and absorbed the silent whoomp that always accompanies this revelation. It’s the sound of the real world, gigantic and impossible, replacing the smaller version of reality that I wear like a bonnet, clutched tightly under my chin.”

― Miranda July, It Chooses You

It is useless for the sheep to pass resolutions in favour of vegetarianism, while the wolf remains of a different opinion.”

― William Ralph Inge

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“The wolf lives right here. In this village”. He looked at the villages. “Among you. It is one of you.”

― Sarah Blakley-Cartwright, Red Riding Hood

A good denial, the best point in law.

Irish Proverb

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We’re all carnies, though some people are in denial. They want to be above it all, above the mayhem of laughter and people and lights and animals and the dark sadness that lurks in the coners and beneath the rides and in the trailers after hours. So they ride teh Ferris wheel, and at the top, they think they’ve left it all behind They’ve ascended to a place where they can take things seriously. Where they can be taken seriously.”

― N.D. Wilson

It’s the reason we say “pork” and “beef” instead of “pig” and “cow.” Dissection and surgical instruction, like meat-eating, require a carefully maintained set of illusions and denial.”

― Mary Roach, Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers

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The Pig

In England once there lived a big
And wonderfully clever pig.
To everybody it was plain
That Piggy had a massive brain.
He worked out sums inside his head,
There was no book he hadn’t read.
He knew what made an airplane fly,
He knew how engines worked and why.
He knew all this, but in the end
One question drove him round the bend:
He simply couldn’t puzzle out
What LIFE was really all about.
What was the reason for his birth?
Why was he placed upon this earth?
His giant brain went round and round.
Alas, no answer could be found.
Till suddenly one wondrous night.
All in a flash he saw the light.
He jumped up like a ballet dancer
And yelled, “By gum, I’ve got the answer!”
“They want my bacon slice by slice
“To sell at a tremendous price!
“They want my tender juicy chops
“To put in all the butcher’s shops!
“They want my pork to make a roast
“And that’s the part’ll cost the most!
“They want my sausages in strings!
“They even want my chitterlings!
“The butcher’s shop! The carving knife!
“That is the reason for my life!”
Such thoughts as these are not designed
To give a pig great piece of mind.
Next morning, in comes Farmer Bland,
A pail of pigswill in his hand,
And piggy with a mighty roar,
Bashes the farmer to the floor…
Now comes the rather grizzly bit
So let’s not make too much of it,
Except that you must understand
That Piggy did eat Farmer Bland,
He ate him up from head to toe,
Chewing the pieces nice and slow.
It took an hour to reach the feet,
Because there was so much to eat,
And when he finished, Pig, of course,
Felt absolutely no remorse.
Slowly he scratched his brainy head
And with a little smile he said,
“I had a fairly powerful hunch
“That he might have me for his lunch.
“And so, because I feared the worst,
“I thought I’d better eat him first.”

Roald Dahl

I had been gullible, naive, soft, pliable. That’s why I got taken advantage of. To survive, you have to have a tough skin.

Tia Carrere

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“Modern civilization has made woman a little wiser, but it has increased her suffering because of man’s covetousness. The woman of yesterday was a happy wife, but the woman of today is a miserable mistress. In the past she walked blindly in the light, but now she walks open-eyed in the dark. She was beautiful in her ignorance, virtuous in her simplicity, and strong in her weakness. Today she has become ugly in her ingenuity, superficial and heartless in her knowledge. Will the day ever come when beauty and knowledge, ingenuity and virtue, and weakness of body and strength of spirit will be united in a woman?

― Kahlil Gibran, Broken Wings

“Repentance won’t cure mischief.”

Gaelic.

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He raised his brows. “You’re drunk.” “Am not!” He gave me a bland look. “A drunk’s famous last words before they fall flat on their face.”

― J. Lynn, Wait for You

Imagination gallops; judgment merely walks.

 

 

For Justice, though she’s painted blind,Is to the weaker side inclin’d.

 

SAMUEL BUTLER, Hudibras

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“Pain can be endured and defeated only if it is embraced. Denied or feared, it grows in perception if not in reality. The best response to terror is righteous anger, confidence in ultimate justice, a refusal to be intimidated.”

― Dean Koontz, Velocity

A beast does not know that he is a beast, and the nearer a man gets to being a beast, the less he knows it.

George MacDonald

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“I think it’s perfectly possible to explain how the universe came about without bringing God into it, but I don’t know everything, and there may well be a God somewhere, hiding away. Actually, if he is keeping out of sight, it’s because he’s ashamed of his followers and all the cruelty and ignorance they’re responsible for promoting in his name. If I were him, I’d want nothing to do with them.”

― Philip Pullman

Better than a thousand hollow words is one word that brings peace. Gautama Buddha

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“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

― Melody Beattie

The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.

― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

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To hold one’s self in readiness for opportunity, to keep the serene, confident, hopeful, and joyful energy of mind, is to magnetize it, and draw privileges and power toward one. The concern is not whether opportunity will present itself, but as to whether we will be ready for the opportunity. It comes not to doubt and denial and disbelief. It comes to sunny expecta- tion, eager purpose, and to noble and generous aspiration. –Lilian Whiting.

Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate, or despise, serves to defeat us in the end. ― Henry Miller

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“Knowing too much about other people puts you in their power, they have a claim on you, you are forced to understand their reasons for doing things and then you are weakened.”

― Margaret Atwood, Cat’s Eye

WHO KEEPS COMPANY WITH A WOLF LEARNS TO HOWL.

The Antiquity of Proverbs: Fifty Familiar Proverbs and Folk Sayings with Annotations and Lists …

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“This was the first time he had seriously confronted what he was doing, and the force of that awareness came very abruptly – with a surging of his pulse and a frantic pounding in his head. He was about to gamble his life on that table, and the insanity of that risk filled him with a kind of awe.” Paul Auster, “The Music of Chance” (1990)

http://www.casinos.net/gambling-quotes-proverbs-sayings.htm

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Disease in the nerves, death in the veins.

"The proverbs of Wales: a collection of Welsh proverbs, with English Translations"

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my heroine

The dragon drags me to hell and holds me there
And yet protects me from the blaze of the fire
I’m safe as long as the H runs through me
I can’t feel the flames yet they burn me 

http://allpoetry.com/poem/5899633

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