Category Archives: GENTLENESS

If you do not marry a gentle woman, she will not bear you a gentle son.

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Who marries not an Isakki woman, deserves a donkey for a spouse.

The Isakki women are said to be very pretty.

http://oaks.nvg.org/pakistan-proverbs.html

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A gentle hand may lead the elephant with a hair. Persian Rosary.

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Jumbo – Poem by Kevin Patrick

Sixteen stones tones of Sumo Wrestler
Ober hooligan as a basket of puppies
His obsessions were key chains and pizza
And he could play a really mean tuba
He was Jumbo

His closest friend was a foulmouthed red squirrel
Who lived in a lodge by a shallow blue marsh
He taught him how to fight using drunken panda judo
Wearing red tights and aviator goggles
He was Jumbo

In the wastelands of high school hallways
Where everyone’s a mutation of some kind
He was the greatest of all the super heroes
cause he never cared if they called him a zero
He was Jumbo

He never could soar at a Mach speed of five
Or peer with Catskills of infrared vision
But he could be relied on to be a good guy
Playing a billion tunes with a two note Tuba
He was Jumbo

‘And if you want to believe in a god
then believe in yourself
And if you want to fight for what is good
Then simply live what it means to be’

Says My Darling Jumbo

The best way to catch a bird is not by scaring it away. African

 

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Song for a Singer

When you go underground with all your airs,
Your kindly lies and your ridiculous prayers,
You shall not ever fear to face again
The strong man’s rage, the woman wild with pain
Nor song nor sigh will beat upon your brain.

The world will mourn you neither less nor more
Than all the pawns who played the game before;
The lover-lad will kiss his love anew
The water-birds will have their dance to do,
And the rude Spring will gallop over you.

The men who make will match the men who mar,
The eye unsatisfied will seek a star;
Your visitor the worm will speak you fair,
The bride will tremble and the child will stare,
And the red Summer will ride everywhere. 

John Shaw Neilson

 

 

Ask yourself: Have you been kind today? Make kindness your daily modus operandi and change your world.

Annie Lennox

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MERGING ASPECTS

Another king I knew had twelve champions,
each chosen for his astrological sign.
My favourite was the Piscean who combined
courage and gentleness but who eventually
was slain by the Aquarian, a mess of
ambition and impeccable manners.
 Bruce Beaver > MERGING ASPECTS

Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up.

” We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn’t beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on.
—Sean Covey

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The Power of Speech

Judaism is intensely aware of the power of speech and of the harm that can be done through speech. The rabbis note that the universe itself was created through speech. Of the 43 sins enumerated in the Al Cheit confession recited on Yom Kippur, 11 are sins committed through speech. The Talmud tells that the tongue is an instrument so dangerous that it must be kept hidden from view, behind two protective walls (the mouth and teeth) to prevent its misuse.

The harm done by speech is even worse than the harm done by stealing or by cheating someone financially: money lost can be repaid, but the harm done by speech can never be repaired. For this reason, some sources indicate that there is no forgiveness for lashon ha-ra (disparaging speech). This is probably hyperbole, but it illustrates the seriousness of improper speech. A Chasidic tale vividly illustrates the danger of improper speech: A man went about the community telling malicious lies about the rabbi. Later, he realized the wrong he had done, and began to feel remorse. He went to the rabbi and begged his forgiveness, saying he would do anything he could to make amends. The rabbi told the man, “Take a feather pillow, cut it open, and scatter the feathers to the winds.” The man thought this was a strange request, but it was a simple enough task, and he did it gladly. When he returned to tell the rabbi that he had done it, the rabbi said, “Now, go and gather the feathers. Because you can no more make amends for the damage your words have done than you can recollect the feathers.”

Speech has been compared to an arrow: once the words are released, like an arrow, they cannot be recalled, the harm they do cannot be stopped, and the harm they do cannot always be predicted, for words like arrows often go astray.

http://www.jewfaq.org/speech.htm

May you walk gently through the world and know its beauty all the days of your life.

~ Apache Prayer

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“Contrary to what a lot of people believe (or hope), comfort doesn’t take the pain away. Comfort slides in beside the pain, pulling up a chair so that we have something more than sorrow in our hearts. Comfort gently expands our spirits so that we can breathe again. Comfort opens our eyes so that we can see possibility again.

And on those days, whether it is the next day or five years removed, on that day when grief rears its dark head again, comfort helps us remember that pain is not all there is”

― Peggy Haymes, Strugglers, Stragglers and Seekers: daily devotions for the rest of us

The source of a true smile is an awakened mind. Smiling helps you approach the day with gentleness and understanding.

Thich Nhat Hanh

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“The day wore on, and all these bright colours subsided, and assumed a quieter tint, like young hopes softened down by time, or youthful features by degrees resolving into the calm and serenity of age. But they were scarcely less beautiful in their slow decline, than they had been in their prime; for nature gives to every time and season some beauties of its own; and from morning to night, as from the cradle to the grave, is but a succession of changes so gentle and easy, that we can scarcely mark their progress.”

― Charles Dickens

It was the kind of kiss that made me know that I was never so happy in my whole life.”

― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

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It is the passion that is in a kiss that gives to it its sweetness; it is the affection in a kiss that sanctifies it.
Christian Nestell Bovee

 

 

Gone are the days when the old country doctor would drive out to your house and amputate your infected leg for a basket of goose eggs and a rhubarb pie.”

― Cuthbert Soup, A Whole Nother Story

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“You will find out that Charity is a heavy burden to carry, heavier than the kettle of soup and the full basket. But you will keep your gentleness and your smile. It is not enough to give soup and bread. This the rich can do. You are the servant of the poor, always smiling and good-humoured. They are your masters, terribly sensitive and exacting masters you will see. And the uglier and the dirtier they will be, the more unjust and insulting, the more love you must give them. It is only for your love alone that the poor will forgive you the bread you give to them.”
― St. Vincent de Paul

There is a bigger picture, just step back from the canvas.”

― Ilona Simone

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Growth is an erratic forward movement: two steps forward, one step back. Remember that and be very gentle with yourself.
Julia Cameron

Those who foolishly sought power by riding the back of the tiger ended up inside

― John F. Kennedy

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“The need is not really for more brains, the need is now for a gentler, a more tolerant people than those who won for us against the ice, the tiger and the bear. The hand that hefted the axe, out of some old blind allegiance to the past fondles the machine gun as lovingly. It is a habit man will have to break to survive, but the roots go very deep.”

― Loren Eiseley, The Immense Journey: An Imaginative Naturalist Explores the Mysteries of Man and Nature

My heart knows what my mind only think it knows.

Noah Benshea, Jacob the Baker: Gentle Wisdom For a Complicated World

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“I have three precious things which I hold fast and prize. The first is gentleness; the second is frugality; the third is humility, which keeps me from putting myself before others. Be gentle and you can be bold; be frugal and you can be liberal; avoid putting yourself before others and you can become a leader among men.”

― Lao Tzu

Indeed I have always been of the opinion that hard work is simply the refuge of people who have nothing to do.” ― Oscar Wilde

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“I want my girls to see their relationship with me as a place of refuge, a place they can retreat to for honesty, unconditional love, and support. I want to teach them and have them trust me, not fear me. I want to preserve the gentle souls that I see in them.”

-Liz. M.”
― Hilary Flower, Adventures in Gentle Discipline: A Parent-to-Parent Guide

Curses on the garlic ragout!

― Anonymous, The Arabian Nights: Tales from a Thousand and One Nights

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“But, look, it is good to have a dream so long as you do not let it gnaw at the substance of your present. I have seen men consumed by their dreams, and it is a sour business. If you cling too tightly to a dream—a poodle bitch or a personal sausage chef or whatever—then you miss the felicity of your heart beating and the smell of the grass growing and the sounds lizards make when you run through the neighborhood with our friend. Your dream should be like a favorite old bone that you savor and cherish and chew upon gently. Then, rather than stealing from you a wasted sigh or the life of an idle hour, it nourishes you, and you become strangely contented by nostalgia for a possible future, so juicy with possibility and redolent of sautéed garlic and decadent slabs of bacon that you feel full when you’ve eaten nothing. And then, one fine day when the sun smiles upon your snout, then the time is right, you bite down hard. The dream is yours. And then you
chew on the next one.”

― Kevin Hearne, Hammered

On the night of the murder I was at home, asleep. The characters in my dream can vouch for me.

― Jarod Kintz, $3.33

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“It is so hard to learn to put sadness in perspective so hard to understand that it is a feeling that comes in degrees, it can be a candle burning gently and harmlessly in your home, or it can be a full-fledged forest fire that destroy almost everything and is controlled by almost nothing. It can also be so much in-between ”

― Elizabeth Wurtzel, Prozac Nation

“You don’t blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose.

― Melody Beattie, The Lessons of Love: Rediscovering Our Passion for Live When It All Seems Too Hard to Take

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“We cannot know the consequences of suppressing a child’s spontaneity when he is just beginning to be active. We may even suffocate life itself. That humanity which is revealed in all its intellectual splendour during the sweet and tender age of childhood should be respected with a kind of religious veneration. It is like the sun which appears at dawn or a flower just beginning to bloom. Education cannot be effective unless it helps a child to open up himself to life.”
― Maria Montessori

you have to understand in order to disagree. Charles Van Doren

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“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.”

― Kurt Vonnegut

When you encounter difficulties and contradictions, do not try to break them, but bend them with gentleness and time. Saint Francis de Sales

http://www.cutelifequotes4u.com/gentleness/index.html

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And it's knowing I'm not shackled by forgotten words and bonds

And the ink stains that have dried on some line

That keeps you in the back-roads

By the rivers of my memory that keeps you ever gentle on my mind
 
Gentle On My Mind
Recorded by Glen Campbell written by John Hartford

If you do not marry a gentle woman, she will not bear you a gentle son.

"Bannú; or Our Afghan frontier"

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But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” (Galatians 5:22-23)

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There never was a heart truly great and generous that was not also tender and compassionate. South.

"Proverbs, Maxims and Phrases of All Ages: Classified Subjectively and Arranged Alphabetically"

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For me music is a vehicle to bring our pain to the surface, getting it back to that humble and tender spot where, with luck, it can lose its anger and become compassion again.
Paula Cole

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