If you and a fool have an argument, he succeeds. African Proverbs
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MANY A WORD IS SPOKEN IN ANGER
Two monks were arguing about the temple flag waving in the wind. One said, “The flag moves.” The other said, “The wind moves.” They argued back and forth but could not agree. Hui-neng, the sixth Patriarch, said: “Gentlemen! It is not the flag that moves. It is not the wind that moves. It is your mind that moves.” The two monks were struck with awe.
Sam Langer
The Argument
It is windy out there. Back
home an argument continues.
We could be swimming, eating,
going for a walk, pointing
at a bird. Taking batteries
to the emergency. How many
birds do I have? Have I had?
The hydra in the sunshine.
I could be sitting in a
window composing the postal
service on an invisible grid
of trumpets. My skull could be
whizzing through weeks worth of
nests. I could be a fish,
on a train.
“A clever wife often sleeps with a stupid husband.”
-Chinese
All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”
Wayne Dyer
Ukali wa jicho washinda wembe
An eye is sharper than a razor
A look can be extremely effective in sending a desired message across. It can be a friendly and inviting look or a threatening one.
http://www.glcom.com/hassan/kanga.html
As Long As Your Eyes Are Blue
by Banjo Paterson (1864-1941)
Australian writer
“Will you love me, sweet, when my hair is grey
And my cheeks shall have lost their hue?
When the charms of youth shall have passed away,
Will your love as of old prove true?
“For the looks may change, and the heart may range,
And the love be no longer fond;
Wilt thou love with truth in the years of youth
And away to the years beyond?
Oh, I love you, sweet, for your locks of brown
And the blush on your cheek that lies—
But I love you most for the kindly heart
That I see in your sweet blue eyes.
For the eyes are signs of the soul within,
Of the heart that is real and true,
And mine own sweetheart, I shall love you still,
Just as long as your eyes are blue.
For the locks may bleach, and the cheeks of peach
May be reft of their golden hue;
But mine own sweetheart, I shall love you still,
Just as long as your eyes are blue.
Man is the only trained animal who expects his reward before he does his trick.
~Robert Brault, http://www.robertbrault.com
http://www.quotegarden.com/human.html
You cannot train a horse with shouts and expect it to obey a whisper.
– Dagobert D. Runes
We must learn to see each other as brother and sister, beyond all apparent differences of belief, culture, color, language, and religion.
http://www.earthalive.com/Indigenous_Voice.html
Nganyinytja, a Pitjantjatjara Elder said, ”Much trouble has come from people forgetting the land, the spirit. Many people are sick and have lost their spirit; we grieve for them. But we can all learn and make our spirit strong. My teaching is about opening your spirit, working together to build understanding. Opening our way, opening our hearts, to share the spirit of the land with all who want to learn”.
Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you’re wrong.
-T-Shirt” ― Darynda Jones, Third Grave Dead Ahead
No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or emotional appeal.
Marilyn Ferguson
http://www.bored.com/findquotes/cate_534_Argument&Debate.html
Safety doesn’t happen by accident.
http://www.quotegarden.com/teen-drivers.html
“if the teenage kids want to carouse, that’s where they do it. They make bonfires, and drink too much and smoke dope, and grope around in one another’s clothing as if they’ve just invented it, and smash their parents cars up on the way back to town.”
― Margaret Atwood
Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.
http://www.quotegarden.com/speaking.html
“When I didn’t argue he was satisfied he had persuaded me, and was not the first to make that mistake.”
― Saul Bellow
To Quarrel With a Drunk Is To Wrong a Man Who Is Not There
“Once upon a time, powerful wizard, who wanted to destroy an entire kingdom, placed a magic potion in the well from which the inhabitants drank. Whoever drank that water would go mad.
The following morning, the whole population drank from the well and they all went mad, apart from the king and his family, who had a well set aside for them alone, which the magician had not managed to poison. The king was worried and tried to control the population by issuing a series of edicts governing security and public health. The policemen and the inspectors, however, had also drunk the poisoned water, and they thought the king’s decisions were absurd and resolved to take notice of them.
When the inhabitants of the kingdom heard these decrees, they became convinced that the king had gone mad and was now giving nonsensical orders. The marched on the castle and called for his abdication.
In despair the king prepared to step down from the throne, but the queen stopped him, saying: ‘Let us go and drink from the communal well. Then we will be the same as them.’
And that was what they did: The king and queen drank the water of madness and immediately began talking nonsense. Their subjects repented at once; now that the king was displaying such ‘wisdom’, why not allow him to rule the country?
The country continued to live in peace, although its inhabitants behaved very differently from those of its neighbors. And the king was able to govern until the end of his days.”
― Paulo Coelho, Veronika Decides to Die
You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.” ― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
“When a man who is drinking neat gin starts talking about his mother he is past all argument.”
― C.S. Forester, The African Queen
Youth ends when egotism does; maturity begins when one lives for others.
― Hermann Hesse, Gertrude
Ten Grey hairs and a silver one
I discovered my first grey hair
when I was Seventeen years old
It had to do with breaking up my first relationship
I discovered my second grey hair
when I was Twenty years old
It had to do with the quarrels at home
I discovered my third grey hair
when I was Twenty-one years old
It had to do with searching for work
I discovered my fourth grey hair
when I was Twenty-three years old
It had to do with losing my job
I discovered my fifth grey hair
when I was Twenty-five years old
It had to do with giving up my unborn child
I discovered my sixth grey hair
When I was Twenty-eight years old
It had to do with opening my pub
I discovered my seventh grey hair
When I was thirty years old
It had to do with giving birth to my daughter
I discovered my eighth grey hair
When I was thirty –two years old
It had to do with the first day at the kinder garden school
I discovered my ninth grey hair
When I was thirty-four years old
It had to do with finding out that some thing was missing
I discovered my tenth grey hair
When I was thirty-five years old
It had to do with the fights between my sisters and mum
My one Silver hair I discovered lately
Has to do with you
Because I miss you so hard …
Pascale Ost
http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/ten-grey-hairs-and-a-silver-one/
wind batters the weatherboards
like fists and boots thudding.
shoulders the door
again, again. Grasps the metal roof
like fingers buried in hair, yanking
it wants scalp.
Dael Allison
http://www.dangerouslypoetic.com/jean_ringland_memorial_prize_2009.php
Like a top that has done spinning.
Said of one who has been humbled.
" His heart went into his boots"
He who forgives ends the argument. African
http://www.inspirationalquotes4u.com/africanproverbs/index.html
http://www.archive.org/stream/dictionaryofquot00woodrich/dictionaryofquot00woodrich_djvu.txt
In any controversy, the instant we feel angry we have already ceased striving for truth and begun striving for ourselves. Goethe.
foto – autumn in bellingen showgrounds. 2010
One snaps with two fingers (not with one). It takes two to make a quarrel.
"A Dictionary of Kashmiri Proverbs & Sayings: Explained and Illustrated from …"
Quick to do good, but slow to quarrel.
foto – ulmarra cattle. 2010.
It is useless to argue with a fool.
"The proverbs of Wales: a collection of Welsh proverbs, with English Translations"
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.
Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument.
That is my experience.
If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.http://www.quotelady.com/authors/author-h.html
foto – devon elf from ulmarra on a raleigh bookcase
When arguing with fools, don’t answer their foolish arguments, or you will become as foolish as they are. Proverbs 26
(AB "Banjo" Paterson)
With all our petty quarrels done,
Dissensions overthrown,
We have, through what you boys have done,
A history of our own.
http://www.hunterbushpoets.org.au/
foto – art exhibition at infusions cafe bellingen 2010
It is not necessary to understand things in order to argue about them. Pierre Beaumarchais
When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of flying alone. It quickly moves back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front of it.
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