Category Archives: EXPECTATIONS

“Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.” ― Miles Kington



People always ask me:

“How do you memorize all of that?”

And the truth is the first girl I ever kissed, tasted like tomatoes.

And I know this, because the second girl I ever kissed tasted like pepper.

It wasn’t unpleasant.

It’s just that I was expecting tomatoes.


Man is the only trained animal who expects his reward before he does his trick.

~Robert Brault,


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You cannot train a horse with shouts and expect it to obey a whisper.
– Dagobert D. Runes

Nature seems to look after her own only up to a certain point; beyond that they are supposed to fend for themselves.

“Life, Flesh and Blood: Amphibians,” (p.185), Simon & Schuster, NY, NY, 1959 Hal Borland (1900-1978) – The Enduring Pattern,

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Humans are amphibians – half spirit and half animal. As spirits they belong to the eternal world, but as animals they inhabit time.
C. S. Lewis

“A life that is burdened with expectations is a heavy life. Its fruit is sorrow and disappointment.”

― Douglas Adams, The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul

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Why not go out on a limb?
Isn’t that where the fruit is?
– Mark Twain

I had never planned to become a savanna baboon when I grew up; instead, I had always assumed I would become a mountain gorilla.”

― Robert M. Sapolsky

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The Big Baboon is found upon
The plains of Cariboo:
He goes about with nothing on
(A shocking thing to do).

But if he dressed up respectably
And let his whiskers grow,
How like this Big Baboon would be
To Mister So-and-so!


It is our lot to take what we have, make of it what we will. We are meant to finger the leftovers, rock our old dolls, clutch wooden angels to our breasts.”

― Jan Seale, Appearances

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“Cigarettes and Whiskey and Wild, Wild Women”

Perhaps I was born kneeling,
born coughing on the long winter,
born expecting the kiss of mercy,
born with a passion for quickness
and yet, as things progressed,
I learned early about the stockade
or taken out, the fume of the enema.
By two or three I learned not to kneel,
not to expect, to plant my fires underground
where none but the dolls, perfect and awful,
could be whispered to or laid down to die.

Now that I have written many words,
and let out so many loves, for so many,
and been altogether what I always was—
a woman of excess, of zeal and greed,
I find the effort useless.
Do I not look in the mirror,
these days,
and see a drunken rat avert her eyes?
Do I not feel the hunger so acutely
that I would rather die than look
into its face?
I kneel once more,
in case mercy should come
in the nick of time.”
― Anne Sexton

It is easier to forgive an enemy than a friend.

Madame Dorothée Deluzy

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“I always feel happy, you know why? Because I don’t expect anything from anyone; expectations always hurt. Life is short. So love your life. Be happy. And keep smiling. Just Live for yourself and always remember: Before you speak… Listen. Before you write… Think. Before you spend… Earn. Before you pray… Forgive. Before you hurt… Feel. Before you hate… Love. Before you quit… Try. Before you die… Live… That’s Life…Feel it, Live it and Enjoy it.”

― William Shakespeare

Advice is like snow – the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper in sinks into the mind.

Samuel Taylor Coleridge

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“If you want to marry me, here’s what you’ll have to do:
You must learn how to make a perfect chicken-dumpling stew.
And you must sew my holey socks,
And soothe my troubled mind,
And develop the knack for scratching my back,
And keep my shoes spotlessly shined.
And while I rest you must rake up the leaves,
And when it is hailing and snowing
You must shovel the walk…and be still when I talk,
And-hey-where are you going?”

― Shel Silverstein, Where the Sidewalk Ends

The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.

― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath


To hold one’s self in readiness for opportunity, to keep the serene, confident, hopeful, and joyful energy of mind, is to magnetize it, and draw privileges and power toward one. The concern is not whether opportunity will present itself, but as to whether we will be ready for the opportunity. It comes not to doubt and denial and disbelief. It comes to sunny expecta- tion, eager purpose, and to noble and generous aspiration. –Lilian Whiting.

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

― Friedrich Nietzsche


“I think people expect too much from marriage today,’ he said. ‘They expect perfection. Every moment should be bliss. That’s TV or movies. But that is not the human experience.
. . . twenty good minutes here, forty good minutes there, it adds up to something beautiful. The trick is when things aren’t so great, you don’t junk the whole thing. It’s okay to have an argument. It’s okay that the other one nudges you a little, bothers you a little. It’s part of being close to someone.
But the joy you get from that same closeness–when you watch your children, when you wake up and smile at each other–that . . . is a blessing. People forget that.”
― Mitch Albom, Have a Little Faith: The Story of a Last Request

Art calls for complete mastery of techniques, developed by reflection within the soul. Bruce Lee


“When you want to attract something into your life, make sure your actions don’t contradict your desires.. Think about what you have asked for, and make sure that your actions are mirroring what you expect to receive, and that they’re not contradicting what you‘ve asked for. Act as if you are receiving it. Do exactly what you would do if you were receiving it today, and take actions in your life to reflect that powerful expectation. Make room to receive your desires, and as you do, you are sending out that powerful signal of expectation.”

Rhonda Byrne, The Secret

Pro 27:1 Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth.

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The stick of warnings hurts. It punishes when you do not listen to warnings.

Swahili Proverbs

Center for African Studies
University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign


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Exaggeration is to paint a snake and add legs.

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Alcohol is perfectly consistent in its effects upon man.  Drunkenness is merely an exaggeration.  A foolish man drunk becomes maudlin; a bloody man, vicious; a coarse man, vulgar. Willa Sibert Cather

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