We ought to hate very rarely, as it is too fatiguing; remain indifferent to a great deal, forgive often and never forget.
We ought to hate very rarely, as it is too fatiguing; remain indifferent to a great deal, forgive often and never forget.
http://www.litera.co.uk/proverbs_and_sayings_on_save_trees/
It takes a life to understand a tree.
You start by climbing high, by holding eggs
Like eyes in the curved eyelids of a young hand,
Then take away plump scratchy nests, still warm,
By thinking other things. Branches will wave
As though to seek your help, but then they go
Just like the ants and leaves marked hard with lines.
Summer will pass with rich dark smells of earth
And then the sound of wind in branches—yes,
That too will slide into the void you hold
With next door’s silky oak that vaguely sighed
One early morning, deep in the pulp of Spring,
Then fell on power lines and through a house.
It takes a life to understand a tree
But life climbs quickly, climbs with claws, and so
You haven’t stood beneath a tree for long
And all that’s left is a sparkle up there, high,
A glistening that you can hardly see,
That beckons you toward it, nonetheless,
And somehow tells you that there is no void.
Source: The ABC Book of Australian Poetry: a treasury for young people compiled by Libby Hathorn (ABC Books 2010)
The Sydney Morning Herald (NSW : 1842 – 1954), Saturday 15 April 1933
This saying tells us that a long period of testing is needed to understand one’s nature and capabilities.
http://www.chinahighlights.com/travelguide/learning-chinese/chinese-sayings.htm
Kathy Earsman
A MODERN AUSTRALIAN POET
Forgive (Rondeau Redouble.)
Forgive yourself, my son, for errors past,
for weaknesses are only strengths reflected;
mistakes that seem so glaring, when recast
may bring solutions if they are respected.
Adventures led to outcomes unexpected;
and some were bound to leave you quite aghast,
in light of reason, do not be dejected,
forgive yourself, my son, for errors past.
Oh hold your self-respect and hold it fast!
Your tender heart deserves to be protected,
and self-recrimination cannot last,
for weaknesses are only strengths reflected.
Your strengths are vital, let them be directed,
for deep within you lies a wisdom vast;
you’ll see how inexperience affected
mistakes that seem so glaring, when recast.
And when the benefits you have amassed,
when all the stepping-stones have been connected,
be proud my son that journeys unsurpassed
may bring solutions if they are respected.
Then when your future course has been selected,
please know that strengths and weaknesses contrast;
they complement each other when inspected,
there never was a need to be downcast.
Forgive yourself my son.
– Bill Deslippe
http://www.hilliard.ws/wise.htm
Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, the wrong is released from its emotional stranglehold on us so that we can learn from it. Through the power and intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness brings expanded intelligence to work with the situation more effectively.
– David McArthur & Bruce McArthur
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
“If you are a member of a small group or class, I urge you to make a group covenant that includes the nine characteristics of biblical fellowship: We will share our true feelings (authenticity), forgive each other (mercy), speak the truth in love (honesty), admit our weaknesses (humility), respect our differences (courtesy), not gossip (confidentiality), and make group a priority (frequency).”
― Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth am I Here for?
Madame Dorothée Deluzy
http://www.heartquotes.net/Forgiveness.html
“I always feel happy, you know why? Because I don’t expect anything from anyone; expectations always hurt. Life is short. So love your life. Be happy. And keep smiling. Just Live for yourself and always remember: Before you speak… Listen. Before you write… Think. Before you spend… Earn. Before you pray… Forgive. Before you hurt… Feel. Before you hate… Love. Before you quit… Try. Before you die… Live… That’s Life…Feel it, Live it and Enjoy it.”
― William Shakespeare
– Edward Hoagland “Dogs and the Tug of Life”
“I am not a smart man, particularly, but one day, at long last, I stumbled from the dark woods of my own, and my family’s, and my country’s past, holding in my hands these truths: that love grows from the rich loam of forgiveness; that mongrels make good dogs; that the evidence of God exists in the roundness of things. This much, at least, I’ve figured out. I know this much is true.”
― Wally Lamb, I Know This Much Is True
Aesop
“In the external scheme of things, shining moments are as brief as the twinkling of an eye, yet such twinklings are what eternity is made of — moments when we human beings can say “I love you,” “I’m proud of you,” “I forgive you,” “I’m grateful for you.” That’s what eternity is made of: invisible imperishable good stuff.”
― Fred Rogers, The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember
“Have you forgiven me?’ I asked.
‘How can I say I have, when I never had anything to forgive?’
‘Well then, I must go unforgiven for I cannot forgive myself.’ I said.
‘O Mrs. Percivale! If you think how the world is flooded with
forgiveness, you will just dip in your cup, and take what you want.”
― George MacDonald
Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth am I Here for?
“In a word, live together in the forgiveness of your sins, for without it no human fellowship, least of all a marriage, can survive. Don’t insist on your rights, don’t blame each other, don’t judge or condemn each other, don’t find fault with each other, but accept each other as you are, and forgive each other every day from the bottom of your hearts…”
Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison
― Sue Monk Kidd
“There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket – safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”
C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
Augusten Burroughs
“Not to forgive is to be imprisoned by the past, by old grievances that do not permit life to proceed with new business. Not to forgive is to yield oneself to another’s control… to be locked into a sequence of act and response, of outrage and revenge, tit for tat, escalating always. The present is endlessly overwhelmed and devoured by the past. Forgiveness frees the forgiver. It extracts the forgiver from someone else’s nightmare.”
Lance Morrow, The Chief: A Memoir of Fathers and Sons
Now bury with the dead years conflicts dead
And with fresh days let all begin anew.
Why longer amid shrivelled leaf—drifts tread,
When buds are swelling, flower—sheaths peeping through?
Seen through the vista of the vanished years,
How trivial seem the struggle and the crown,
How vain past feuds, when reconciling tears
Course down the channel worn by vanished frown.
How few mean half the bitterness they speak!
Words more than feelings keep us still apart,
And, in the heat of passion or of pique,
The tongue is far more cruel than the heart.
Since love alone makes it worth while to live,
Let all be now forgiven, and forgive.
Alfred Austin 1835-1913
http://oldpoetry.com/opoem/52770-Alfred-Austin-Forgiveness
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http://www.inspirationalquotes4u.com/africanproverbs/index.html
http://www.archive.org/stream/dictionaryofquot00woodrich/dictionaryofquot00woodrich_djvu.txt
In any controversy, the instant we feel angry we have already ceased striving for truth and begun striving for ourselves. Goethe.
foto – autumn in bellingen showgrounds. 2010
(‘No room for hate’ by David Gould
In response to our daughter being killed in the London Bombings of 7 July 2005)"As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy rent-free space in your mind."
Isabelle Holland
foto – ulmarra tree 2010
If you want to know your past life,
look into your present condition;
if you want to know your future,
look into your present action.
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A mom, wife and professional's journey on recovering from addiction
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