Category Archives: SHAME

Once a naked troglodyte, On a bitter Winter’s night, Sat and shivered in his cave the whole night through!

The Boon of Discontent by C J Dennis

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“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honour the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.” 

― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

A single tree makes no forest; one string makes no music.

http://www.oocities.org/yangyangetje/proverb.html

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“People use drugs, legal and illegal, because their lives are intolerably painful or dull. They hate their work and find no rest in their leisure. They are estranged from their families and their neighbors. It should tell us something that in healthy societies drug use is celebrative, convivial, and occasional, whereas among us it is lonely, shameful, and addictive. We need drugs, apparently, because we have lost each other.
(pg. 61, “Racism and the Economy”)” ‘

― Wendell Berry, The Art of the Commonplace: The Agrarian Essays

Wonder rather than doubt is the root of all knowledge.” ―

Abraham Joshua Heschel

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CONFUCIANISM
To be fond of learning is to draw close to wisdom. To practice with vigour is to draw close to benevolence. To know the sense of shame is to draw close to courage. He who knows these three things knows how to cultivate his own character. Knowing how to cultivate his own character, he knows how to govern other men, he knows how to govern the world, its states, and its families.       CONFUCIUS    From the Son of Heaven down to the common people, all must regard cultivation of the personal life as the root or foundation. There is never a case in which the root is in disorder and yet the branches are in order.             CONFUCIUS

http://www.austincc.edu/~songhome/WISDOMCHINA.htm

Defiance may be the roughest path to beauty but, unfortunately, often it is the only path.”

― Debra K. Rodgers, Dear Maymie

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“None of us should be ashamed to speak of our class power or lack of it. Overcoming fear, even the fear of being immodest, and acting courageously to bring issues of class- especially radical standpoints – into the discourse of blackness is a gesture of militant defiance, one that runs counter to bourgeois insistence that we think of “money” in particular and class in general as private matters.”

― Bell Hooks, killing rage: Ending Racism

Healing requires from us to stop struggling, but to enjoy life more and endure it less.”

– Darina Stoyanova

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“Don’t be ashamed to weep; ’tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us.”

― Brian Jacques, Taggerung

Three diseases without shame: Love, itch and thirst.

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“A first child is your own best foot forward, and how you do cheer those little feet as they strike out. You examine every turn of flesh for precocity, and crow it to the world. But the last one: the baby who trails her scent like a flag of surrender through your life when there will be no more coming after–oh, that’ s love by a different name.”

― Barbara Kingsolver, The Poisonwood Bible

A beast does not know that he is a beast, and the nearer a man gets to being a beast, the less he knows it.

George MacDonald

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“I think it’s perfectly possible to explain how the universe came about without bringing God into it, but I don’t know everything, and there may well be a God somewhere, hiding away. Actually, if he is keeping out of sight, it’s because he’s ashamed of his followers and all the cruelty and ignorance they’re responsible for promoting in his name. If I were him, I’d want nothing to do with them.”

― Philip Pullman

Frequent visits cause disrespect.

http://sanskrit-quote.blogspot.com.au/

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“This being human is a guest house. Every morning is a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor…Welcome and entertain them all. Treat each guest honourably. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.”
― Rumi

The universe is a continuous web. Touch it at any point and the whole web quivers.

― Stanley Kunitz

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“A Strange melancholy pervades me to which I hesitate to give the grave and beautiful name of sorrow. The idea of sorrow has always appealed to me but now I am almost ashamed of it’s complete egoism. I have known boredom, regret, and occasionally remorse, but never sorrow. Today it envelops me like a silken web, enervating and soft, and sets me apart from everybody else.”

― Françoise Sagan, Bonjour tristesse

Sometimes I want to be human for you.

― Sarah Rees Brennan, The Demon’s Covenant

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No day goes by without your haunting me,You, whose tongue was always heavy with silence.Watching myself taped, a mouth pouringWord on crested word, I am ashamed.

Peter Steele

http://www.hotsdots.com/poetry/tag/peter-steele/

Believers should acknowledge and wrestle with doubts… It is no longer sufficient to hold beliefs just because you inherited them.” ― Timothy Keller

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“Give me strength, not to be better than my enemies, but to defeat my greatest enemy, the doubts within myself. give me strength for a straight back and clear eyes, so when life fades, as the setting sun, my spirit may come to you without shame.”

― P.C. Cast

“That’s a spiritual lifestyle, being willing to admit that you don’t know everything and that you were wrong about some things. It’s about making a list of all the people you’ve harmed, either emotionally or physically or financially, and going back and making amends. That’s a spiritual lifestyle. It’s not a fluffy ethereal concept.”

Anthony Kiedis, Scar Tissue

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“And no, it wasn’t shame I now felt, or guilt, but something rarer in my life and stronger than both: remorse. A feeling which is more complicated, curdled, and primeval. Whose chief characteristic is that nothing can be done about it: too much time has passed, too much damage has been done, for amends to be made.”

Julian Barnes, The Sense of an Ending

The warrior who unthinkingly wanders from his camp unarmed, can make but feeble resistance when overtaken by the enemy

"Proverbs"

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PROVERB 25 : 21 If your enemies are hungry, feed them; if they are thirsty, give them a drink. 22 You will make them burn with shame, and the Lord will reward you.

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Advice is not compulsion. Ger.

"Proverbs, Maxims and Phrases of All Ages: Classified Subjectively and Arranged Alphabetically"

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Hard is the choice when one is compelled either by silence to die with grief or by speaking to live with shame. Benjansoti.

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Where pride leads, shame follows.

"The proverbs of Wales: a collection of Welsh proverbs, with English Translations"

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And walk not on the earth with conceit and arrogance. Verily, you can neither rend nor penetrate the earth, nor can you attain a stature like the mountains in height.

ISLAMIC QUOTE.

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Ukiona vyaelea vimeundwa. If you see vessels afloat, remember they have been built. Swahili.

http://www.chineblog.com/2009/10/a-nice-proverb-for-a-sunday-morning/

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In the mornings, ashamed—
    ’Twas the last drink he blamed,
Though the first was the matter with Jerry,
    With his nerve out of joint,
    He’d sneak down to Blue’s Point,
And he’d cross by the horse-and-cart ferry,
Like a thief—by the horse-and-cart ferry.

Henry Lawson

1867-1922, written in 1908.

OLDPOETRY.COM

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Truth may be blamed, but shall never be shamed

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Led astray by fairies or goblins. "When a man has got a wee drap ower muckle whuskey, misses his way home, and gets miles out of his direct course, he tells a tale of excuse and whiles lays the blame on the innocent pixies"

KEIGHTLEY’S "Fairy Mythology"

http://sacred-texts.com/pag/gsft/gsft15.htm

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