Please all and you will soon please none. Aesop
Category Archives: PEOPLE PLEASING
popularity is for dolls. a hero cannot be popular
If yuh nah get wing, nah ah guh a bird sport.
If you feel that you do not belong somewhere you should not go there. Also, if you are unable to do something, you should not do it.
http://www.guyana.org/proverbs.html
“Like a parakeet, that says what he knows but doesn’t know what he says”
If you want a kitten, start out by asking for a horse.
Cats always know whether people like or dislike them. They do not always care enough to do anything about it.
– Winifred Carriere
People believe it because people are stupid. Apparently, that’s adequate now.”
― A.S. King, Please Ignore Vera Dietz
One Variation on People Pleasing
Merging. One to please someone is to be like them. Here you aren’t just trying to be what another person wants you to be, you are trying to be a copy of them. If they are upset by something, you should be, too. If they are happy, you should be happy. The way to please them is to merge with them. If you have this variation, you are likely to merge with one special person–a parent, a sibling, a lover, a spouse. Sometimes both people have this pattern; they are merged with each other. There are a number of ways to merge: (1) Searching inside to find the part of you that feels like the other person,. (2) Assuming you feel the same as they do. (3) Distorting what you feel to make it the same. When the two people actually feel differently, this can be confusing.
There just isn`t any pleasing some people. The trick is to stop trying. –
Robert Mitchum
Never forget that only dead fish swim with the stream.”
Until you’ve lost your reputation, you never realize what a burden it was.
Margaret Mitchell (1900 – 1949)
“Reputation is what others think of us; character is what we know of us. When you spend a lot of energy trying to repair a few moments of time that destroyed the view others once had of you, or a judgement someone made of you, true or not, then you must ask yourself, why take on the problem when it is really them?”
― Tambré Bryant – Strategic Intervention Life Coach
“The unhappiest people in this world, are those who care the most about what other people think.” ― C. JoyBell C.
“An appeaser is one who feeds a crocodile, hoping it will eat him last.” ― Winston Churchill
The singing birds among the trees sing not the public ear to please.
Scotland: "Maybes are nay aye honey bees.”
MAKE THYSELF HONEY AND THE FLIES WILL EAT THEE.
Moral emblems, with aphorisms, adages, and proverbs, of all ages and nations
On ne saurait contenter tout le monde et son pere = One cannot please all the world and his wife.
"French and English idioms and proverbs : with critical and historical notes"
Fortify yourself with contentment, for this is an impregnable fortress.
Epictetus
Death is a black camel which kneels at every man’s gate. (Turkish). The camel kneels to receive its burden. Here death is represented as a camel that is sure at some time to stop before every man’s door to receive and bear away his body for burial.
"Curiosities in Proverbs: A Collection of Unusual Adages, Maxims, Aphorisms, Phrases and Other …"
The poison of a scorpion is in his tail; the poison of a fly is in his head; the poison of a serpent is in his fang; the poison of a bad man is in his whole body. (Sanskrit).
The applause of the people is a blast of air.
"Proverbs, Maxims and Phrases of All Ages: Classified Subjectively and Arranged Alphabetically"
Fame is but the breath of the people and that often unwholesome.
foto – burra on a bello wire 2010
There are more things to alarm than to injure us; and we are more often afflicted by fancy than by fact. Seneca
If we do not flatter ourselves the flattery of other people would not harm us.— (La Rochefoucauld)
foto – bilambil from the cottage 2008