Category Archives: PEOPLE PLEASING

If yuh nah get wing, nah ah guh a bird sport.

If you feel that you do not belong somewhere you should not go there. Also, if you are unable to do something, you should not do it.

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“Like a parakeet, that says what he knows but doesn’t know what he says”

People believe it because people are stupid. Apparently, that’s adequate now.”

― A.S. King, Please Ignore Vera Dietz

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One Variation on People Pleasing

Merging. One to please someone is to be like them. Here you aren’t just trying to be what another person wants you to be, you are trying to be a copy of them. If they are upset by something, you should be, too. If they are happy, you should be happy. The way to please them is to merge with them. If you have this variation, you are likely to merge with one special person–a parent, a sibling, a lover, a spouse. Sometimes both people have this pattern; they are merged with each other. There are a number of ways to merge: (1) Searching inside to find the part of you that feels like the other person,. (2) Assuming you feel the same as they do. (3) Distorting what you feel to make it the same. When the two people actually feel differently, this can be confusing.

There just isn`t any pleasing some people. The trick is to stop trying. –

Robert Mitchum

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“People tend to consider being vulnerable a bad thing. It’s not. Vulnerability reminds us that we’re human. It keeps us open to giving and receiving love. Without at least a little, we can become someone living n a prison of our own making, where the walls are so thick that no one can get in or out.”
― Jodee Blanco, Please Stop Laughing at Me… One Woman’s Inspirational Story


Never forget that only dead fish swim with the stream.”

― Malcolm Muggeridge

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When fishes flew and forests walked And figs grew upon thorn, Some moment when the moon was blood Then surely I was born. With monstrous head and sickening cry And ears like errant wings, The devil’s walking parody On all four-footed things.

Gilbert Keith Chesterton

Until you’ve lost your reputation, you never realize what a burden it was.

Margaret Mitchell (1900 – 1949)

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“Reputation is what others think of us; character is what we know of us. When you spend a lot of energy trying to repair a few moments of time that destroyed the view others once had of you, or a judgement someone made of you, true or not, then you must ask yourself, why take on the problem when it is really them?”

― Tambré Bryant – Strategic Intervention Life Coach

“The unhappiest people in this world, are those who care the most about what other people think.” ― C. JoyBell C.

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“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.”

― Leonard Cohen

“An appeaser is one who feeds a crocodile, hoping it will eat him last.” ― Winston Churchill

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“If a drop of that wine would drip into the Nile
The crocodile would be drunken for hundred years by its smell
If the antelope in the dessert would drink a drop of it
It would become a roaring lion and wouldn’t think about the leopard”
― Rūdakī

Death is a black camel which kneels at every man’s gate. (Turkish). The camel kneels to receive its burden. Here death is represented as a camel that is sure at some time to stop before every man’s door to receive and bear away his body for burial.

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The poison of a scorpion is in his tail; the poison of a fly is in his head; the poison of a serpent is in his fang; the poison of a bad man is in his whole body. (Sanskrit).

There are more things to alarm than to injure us; and we are more often afflicted by fancy than by fact. Seneca


If we do not flatter ourselves
the flattery of other people would 
not harm us.— (La Rochefoucauld) 
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