Please all and you will soon please none. Aesop
If you feel that you do not belong somewhere you should not go there. Also, if you are unable to do something, you should not do it.
“Like a parakeet, that says what he knows but doesn’t know what he says”
Cats always know whether people like or dislike them. They do not always care enough to do anything about it.
– Winifred Carriere
― A.S. King, Please Ignore Vera Dietz
One Variation on People Pleasing
Merging. One to please someone is to be like them. Here you aren’t just trying to be what another person wants you to be, you are trying to be a copy of them. If they are upset by something, you should be, too. If they are happy, you should be happy. The way to please them is to merge with them. If you have this variation, you are likely to merge with one special person–a parent, a sibling, a lover, a spouse. Sometimes both people have this pattern; they are merged with each other. There are a number of ways to merge: (1) Searching inside to find the part of you that feels like the other person,. (2) Assuming you feel the same as they do. (3) Distorting what you feel to make it the same. When the two people actually feel differently, this can be confusing.
― Malcolm Muggeridge
When fishes flew and forests walked And figs grew upon thorn, Some moment when the moon was blood Then surely I was born. With monstrous head and sickening cry And ears like errant wings, The devil’s walking parody On all four-footed things.
Gilbert Keith Chesterton
Margaret Mitchell (1900 – 1949)
“Reputation is what others think of us; character is what we know of us. When you spend a lot of energy trying to repair a few moments of time that destroyed the view others once had of you, or a judgement someone made of you, true or not, then you must ask yourself, why take on the problem when it is really them?”
― Tambré Bryant – Strategic Intervention Life Coach
MAKE THYSELF HONEY AND THE FLIES WILL EAT THEE.
Fortify yourself with contentment, for this is an impregnable fortress.
The poison of a scorpion is in his tail; the poison of a fly is in his head; the poison of a serpent is in his fang; the poison of a bad man is in his whole body. (Sanskrit).
Fame is but the breath of the people and that often unwholesome.
foto – burra on a bello wire 2010
If we do not flatter ourselves the flattery of other people would not harm us.— (La Rochefoucauld)
foto – bilambil from the cottage 2008