Sherry Turkle :
Ours has been called a culture of narcissism. The label is apt but can be misleading. It reads colloquially as selfishness and self-absorption. But these images do not capture the anxiety behind our search for mirrors. We are insecure in our understanding of ourselves, and this insecurity breeds a new preoccupation with the question of who we are. We search for ways to see ourselves. The computer is a new mirror, the first psychological machine. Beyond its nature as an analytical engine lies its second nature as an evocative object.
[Sherry Turkle (b. 1948), U.S. sociologist and psychologist. The Second Self, ch. 9 (1984)
The perfect man uses his mind as a mirror.It grasps nothing. It regrets nothing.It receives but does not keep.
‘Ike aku, ‘ike mai, kokua aku kokua mai; pela iho la ka nohana ‘ohana.
Many native Hawaiians live with their extended family and family is the most important part of life for them. This saying teaches why they should put family first…In the Ohana or family, you know others and they know you, you help others and know you will be helped if there is anything you need.
ALI COBBY ECKERMANN
My heart is Round ready to echo the music of my
family but the Square
within me remains
The Square stops me in my entirety.
“How do you make a girl know she’s beautiful? What is the system for that, what do you show her, how do you give her a new set of eyes and turn her face back to the mirror?”