Six SANITY Steps for Regaining a Healthy Relationship with Adult Children
S = STOP the Enabling and STOP the Flow of Money
A = ASSEMBLE a Support Group
N = NIP Excuses in the Bud
I = IMPLEMENT Rules and Boundaries
T = TRUST Your Instincts
Y = YIELD Everything to God
― Arthur Conan Doyle, The Boscombe Valley Mystery
And how should a beautiful, ignorant stream of water know it heads for an early release, out across the desert, running toward the Gulf, below sea level, to murmur its lullaby, and see the Imperial Valley rise out of burning sand with cotton blossoms, wheat, watermelons, roses, how should it know?
– Carl Sandburg
—Rabbi Nachman of Bratzlev (as quoted by Steve Sanfield)
“There are two kinds of people in this world. Those who want to know the facts, and those who want to make up a nice story to feel better. I wish I was the kind who made up stories.”
― Adriana Trigiani, The Shoemakers Wife
― Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie
Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgement of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you’re going to do about it.
– Dorothy L. Sayers
“Did you ever fly a kite in bed?
Did you ever walk with ten cats on your head?
Did you ever milk this kind of cow?
Well, we can do it. We know how.
If you never did, you should.
These things are fun and fun is good.”
― Dr. Seuss, One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
Sit down before fact with an open mind. Be prepared to give up every preconceived notion. Follow humbly wherever and to whatever abyss Nature leads or you learn nothing. Don’t push out figures when facts are going in the opposite direction.”
― Hyman G. Rickover